| June 18, 2008 issue | ||
Opinions |
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“Leader for a Change” (Jimmy Carter) |
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Dear American Killing Machine, |
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Robert Kennedy was shot two months after ML King Jr. who, moved in 1963 by President John Kennedy’s open-mindedness, had roused the nation with his dream “… that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by the content of their character.” |
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How about a medal for participating? |
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on the other, dads from the teams receiving the goal in the back of the nets are hanging their heads and distancing themselves from the losing team. I’ve been on both sides of the field in the last decade; next year I’m casting the veto vote and joining the outpouring of parents trundling across wet fields under overcast skies to cheer my sons on to rarified soccer heights and massive hauls of medals. Fact is, it was the medal haul at the end of the season that contributed partly to me not stepping in to veto their decision to not play soccer this year. I gave serious thought to the physical activity that would not happen with this decision – me having to descend to the basement and retrieve five folding director’s chairs with the cupholders on the arms, one for for warm drinks in wet-snow weather, the other to hold the can of insect repellant to deter the squadrons of determined, propellor-driven mosquitoes. I also gave intense thought to the loss of the running around loaded with the weight of bags filled with winter coats, water bottles, soccer equipment and the first aid kit filled with ice packs, band aids and soothing creams for mosquito bites. Too, I thought about the dog-fights for parking spots closest to the entrance of soccer fields, the stress of negotiating the back-and-forth parallel parking while an impatient line of cars form behind me as I painfully rock into the constricted spot left between a Smart Car and a Ford F750. It was the mass of medals that bothered me. Take a walk into any of the kids’ rooms and you would be greeted by a selected wall on which hangs groups of medals as on a tree prolific with fruit. This is no boast that the kids are overachievers or overall success stories in sports such as soccer, basketball and karate. It’s pretty much the age we live in – everyone is a winner. In the end, everyone gets a huge medal whether they excelled or not. Well-known and feared for my cynicism, I am held in check with spousal control whenever I go to a concert, or attend a tournament, or whatever the event the kids participate in, whether at school or in the wider world of organised sports. “Man, hush your mouth,” would be the reproach when I begin grumbling at an official addressing the audience and unaware of the existence of singular and plural verbs. The spousal whisper would be direct and dire with a threat, the sharp heel of a shoe hovering warningly above my foot: “You not going to stand up and correct the lady’s grammar and shame me, yuh hear!” Group efforts depress me for the mix of mediocrity with talent, the surge of the middle-of-the-road, bell-curved players drowning the few instrumentalists who could uplift the emotions. I fidget in audiences when I have to do my duty at these functions, when I have to wave to my sons lost in a sea of brass instruments, the band’s efforts described in ascending hyperbole by music directors who surreptitiously urge the audience, my good self among them, to rise in ovation. Father, put a hand! What this place coming to, I wonder, when I am reluctantly lifted to my feet with a killer, wifely stare. Of course, I don’t applaud. And I make it a point, despite the reproach all the way to the car in the parking lot, to ask the attendant at the exit door for my medal as a participant in the audience. It wasn’t this way when I was growing up in Trinidad. My experience in primary and high school, for example, was such that we busted our brains with cramming for examinations that determined whether we succeeded in life or drowned among the unwashed human derelicts on a sidewalk on Frederick Street in Port-of-Spain. As simple at that. To win a medal then took not only hard work, it also mean working at the books non-stop – school during the day, evening classes afterwards, and Saturday mornings for extra lessons. Winning a medal in my day was a weighty thing – neighbours came to visit, to share and dream about similar success for their children. Sometimes I think we’ve lost our way, that the value has gone out of things we should hold dear. |
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